FBSM worker and our professional relationship

[Ryanscot]

We laughed, we had fun, we played backgammon, and all the while, there she is across
from me with that very sexy red dress of hers on, teasing me with a folded leg every
once in a while. I then asked her to step outside with me – I had a surprise for her –
a limousine parked outside, waiting to whisk us away. She entered it with me, her
dress now showing all of her leg, and away we went, my arm around her, both of
us laughing. I had the driver bring us all the way downtown to Battery Park, where we
got out and walked around, talked, getting deeper into our characters, and enjoying
the sun going down across the Hudson while we stood at the foot of the harbor. I
can’t remember much of our conversation, but the only thing on my mind was my
next move – a limo trip back to the hotel room I had reserved for the night. She
readily agreed to join me there, and I thought I was In Like Flint. We brought up a
bottle of wine to the room, a very nicely appointed room, and sat down on the floor,
opened up the backgammon set, and flicked on the TV. I had made a cassette (remember
those?) of sexy songs, and put the tape on the tape machine I had brought up to the room.
So the mood was set – and after I while I asked her to get up and dance. She did so,
and we began dancing, my body about on fire by now for this girl who I hadn’t tasted
in exactly one year. Yes, after all this time working together, I was hoping for a
night of unbridled passion. What happened next was simply stunning, as I had just
begun to kiss her neck. In the space of about 12 seconds she did the following – said
she didn’t really want to be doing this, walked over to the bed and picked up her
pocketbook, walked to the door, opened it, turned to me, said goodnight, and left!!!!
It was like someone had put a knife through my heart. Just like that, after this
great buildup all evening, she was gone like a puff of smoke. After drinking
a couple of glasses of wine, I then did the only sensible thing – I called up an
Asian outcall place and had them send someone over! She was there to get
things done quickly, and then leave – which she did, leaving me more upset than
I had been after my good buddy had left.

This all occurred on a Friday night, and when I saw her at work the following Monday,
nothing was ever said about this – never again was this night spoken about between us.
This remains to this day the most pathetic, failed attempt at seducing a woman I wanted.
I long ago got over this – it’s like it occurred another lifetime ago. I have only one
question – how could she do what she did – go that far – and then just run away??
She had to know this ending would crush me.

[spaq]

Originally Posted by Ryanscot

I have only one question – how could she do what she did – go that far – and then just run away?? She had to know this ending would crush me.

I'm sorry, but I've got to ask. How old were you? (I'm being serious.) You had (have?) a wife, two kids and a house, so I'm guessing you were probably in your late 30s at the time. She told you that you could be friends, or you could be a client. She told you that when a guy was paying her, she would do anything (almost) to make him happy. What makes you think that she was romantically interested in you, or ever would be? When you were paying her, she did everything up to her limit. She didn't want to be your girlfriend, for whatever reason.

While you were working together, you're lucky she didn't sue you for sexual harassment.

[xcalibur]

Well I find myself in the same situation. Met this girl month ago in a high end legit spa and now I think I'm falling for her. She's 23 & only been here for 3 months...needless to say super cute with a amazing body and there is not much of a age difference between us. I'm not a sucker fo asian chics but this girl really blew me away. Actually she asked me first if i like to go a movie and that's how it all started. So during last month we went out couple of times and soon all hell is going to break loose.

The problem is I'm in a great relationship which i don't want to fark up. I see a great future ahead but now I have a feeling that it's going to mess up soon. We both have very tight schedules and sometimes things get heated up when each other is not willing to give up. But we have a good understanding and so far it has worked out well.

So now this girl enters and I'm just caught up in web where my mind is always on this. Even at work I find it very hard to concentrate. Is there a pill or something that I can just take and forget all this? Wish it's that easy....

[lightweight]

Originally Posted by xcalibur

Well I find myself in the same situation. Met this girl month ago in a high end legit spa and now I think I'm falling for her. She's 23 & only been here for 3 months...needless to say super cute with a amazing body and there is not much of a age difference between us. I'm not a sucker fo asian chics but this girl really blew me away. Actually she asked me first if i like to go a movie and that's how it all started. So during last month we went out couple of times and soon all hell is going to break loose.

The problem is I'm in a great relationship which i don't want to fark up. I see a great future ahead but now I have a feeling that it's going to mess up soon. We both have very tight schedules and sometimes things get heated up when each other is not willing to give up. But we have a good understanding and so far it has worked out well.

So now this girl enters and I'm just caught up in web where my mind is always on this. Even at work I find it very hard to concentrate. Is there a pill or something that I can just take and forget all this? Wish it's that easy....

What is the problem. Most guys in any kind of relationship is looking for another woman. So, now just have fun and think of the positives. See them both and see where they go.

[flabbergasted]

It's good practice for later years when you're married.

[Lord Trident]

Some of you already know me from our "Sister Site" so let me part with some wisdom.
-If you are married, try to have sex as soon as possible, if they see you are hooked, look out.
-If you are single, go ahead play their game but be leary
-Enjoy the game but remember, asians to this as a Means to an End. They sometimes might leech you dry. Don't believe me, ask around.

Originally Posted by xcalibur

Well I find myself in the same situation. Met this girl month ago in a high end legit spa and now I think I'm falling for her. She's 23 & only been here for 3 months...needless to say super cute with a amazing body and there is not much of a age difference between us. I'm not a sucker fo asian chics but this girl really blew me away. Actually she asked me first if i like to go a movie and that's how it all started. So during last month we went out couple of times and soon all hell is going to break loose.

The problem is I'm in a great relationship which i don't want to fark up. I see a great future ahead but now I have a feeling that it's going to mess up soon. We both have very tight schedules and sometimes things get heated up when each other is not willing to give up. But we have a good understanding and so far it has worked out well.

So now this girl enters and I'm just caught up in web where my mind is always on this. Even at work I find it very hard to concentrate. Is there a pill or something that I can just take and forget all this? Wish it's that easy....

[anonymousdude]

Originally Posted by Ryanscot

We laughed, we had fun, we played backgammon, and all the while, there she is across
from me with that very sexy red dress of hers on, teasing me with a folded leg every
once in a while. I then asked her to step outside with me – I had a surprise for her –
a limousine parked outside, waiting to whisk us away. She entered it with me, her
dress now showing all of her leg, and away we went, my arm around her, both of
us laughing. I had the driver bring us all the way downtown to Battery Park, where we
got out and walked around, talked, getting deeper into our characters, and enjoying
the sun going down across the Hudson while we stood at the foot of the harbor. I
can’t remember much of our conversation, but the only thing on my mind was my
next move – a limo trip back to the hotel room I had reserved for the night. She
readily agreed to join me there, and I thought I was In Like Flint. We brought up a
bottle of wine to the room, a very nicely appointed room, and sat down on the floor,
opened up the backgammon set, and flicked on the TV. I had made a cassette (remember
those?) of sexy songs, and put the tape on the tape machine I had brought up to the room.
So the mood was set – and after I while I asked her to get up and dance. She did so,
and we began dancing, my body about on fire by now for this girl who I hadn’t tasted
in exactly one year. Yes, after all this time working together, I was hoping for a
night of unbridled passion. What happened next was simply stunning, as I had just
begun to kiss her neck. In the space of about 12 seconds she did the following – said
she didn’t really want to be doing this, walked over to the bed and picked up her
pocketbook, walked to the door, opened it, turned to me, said goodnight, and left!!!!
It was like someone had put a knife through my heart. Just like that, after this
great buildup all evening, she was gone like a puff of smoke. After drinking
a couple of glasses of wine, I then did the only sensible thing – I called up an
Asian outcall place and had them send someone over! She was there to get
things done quickly, and then leave – which she did, leaving me more upset than
I had been after my good buddy had left.

This all occurred on a Friday night, and when I saw her at work the following Monday,
nothing was ever said about this – never again was this night spoken about between us.
This remains to this day the most pathetic, failed attempt at seducing a woman I wanted.
I long ago got over this – it’s like it occurred another lifetime ago. I have only one
question – how could she do what she did – go that far – and then just run away??
She had to know this ending would crush me.

She probably thought it was too calculated. It's on the same level as having a condom when you go on a date: girls may think that you're being presumptuous. Or she might have changed her mind at the last second. Like she really, really wanted to do it but then realized that Monday was going to be even more awkward if she went through with it than if she didn't.

But don't put the pussy on the pedestal. Keep it moving!

[Ryanscot]

Originally Posted by spaq

I'm sorry, but I've got to ask. How old were you? (I'm being serious.) You had (have?) a wife, two kids and a house, so I'm guessing you were probably in your late 30s at the time. She told you that you could be friends, or you could be a client. She told you that when a guy was paying her, she would do anything (almost) to make him happy. What makes you think that she was romantically interested in you, or ever would be? When you were paying her, she did everything up to her limit. She didn't want to be your girlfriend, for whatever reason.

While you were working together, you're lucky she didn't sue you for sexual harassment.

I was hoping to turn this into a similar situation I had several years back when I had a
"girlfriend" that I helped out with her bills. Never thought she would be truly romantically interested, but hey, we all do some odd things when the pussy strikes us as just exactly perfect. As for the sexual harrassment comment - that's silly. No green card, and she's gonna sue me? Besides, our relationship in the office was completely professional. She agreed to go out on a date with me outside of the office. Sexual harassment? By the way, I was 47 at the time. I have no regrets about anything. It's far in the past with absolutely zero damage.

[Ryanscot]

Originally Posted by anonymousdude

She probably thought it was too calculated. It's on the same level as having a condom when you go on a date: girls may think that you're being presumptuous. Or she might have changed her mind at the last second. Like she really, really wanted to do it but then realized that Monday was going to be even more awkward if she went through with it than if she didn't.

Very fair comments - certainly a possibility it went that way for her.

[clicker2659]

Originally Posted by xcalibur

Well I find myself in the same situation. Met this girl month ago in a high end legit spa and now I think I'm falling for her. She's 23 & only been here for 3 months...needless to say super cute with a amazing body and there is not much of a age difference between us. I'm not a sucker fo asian chics but this girl really blew me away. Actually she asked me first if i like to go a movie and that's how it all started. So during last month we went out couple of times and soon all hell is going to break loose.

The problem is I'm in a great relationship which i don't want to fark up. I see a great future ahead but now I have a feeling that it's going to mess up soon. We both have very tight schedules and sometimes things get heated up when each other is not willing to give up. But we have a good understanding and so far it has worked out well.

So now this girl enters and I'm just caught up in web where my mind is always on this. Even at work I find it very hard to concentrate. Is there a pill or something that I can just take and forget all this? Wish it's that easy....

keep her on da side.. don't fark up a good relationship that u have... plus shes too young 4 u and just might be looking for the old green card thing and then POFF ur gone!! happens to a lot of suckers....dont be one...

[andysmith739]

I have heard a bunch of horror stories. One guy I know "loaned" a girl some large amount in the five figures. Another guy fell in love with girl to discover she had a husband in Flushing. I have a mate who is in business with someone he met as a customer, they are good friends but I don't think there's any funny business, though she is super-hot, poor guy.

[ereuben]

I dated a really great dancer back in 02' - she was actually a flight attendant laid off after 9/11. It was intense and fun - literally, it only lasted 2 weeks. The killer - she couldn't (and actually, I realized the same, tho I said I could) handle how we met ("what are you going to tell people about how we met"). Our last date was seeing Avenue Q together. True story - I still think about her from time to time. I actually made many friends of the dancers at this place.

[Traderdave]

ereuben,
Which club was that? You could have easily said "I met her at a disco and had a dance with her". You don't have to say it was a lap dance. LOL

[CourtesanM]

Ryanscot that has to be one of the most romantic stories i have ever heard. It truly touches a person, it really speaks volumes. One could not even write a story well enough to your experience.

I used to have a regular "friend" that i cared for. He came to see me every week, and waited only for me. Brought me presents, even offered to leave his wife for me, but sadly I had to end it. He was getting too close and I did not want him to ruin is life for a silly young woman, who has no room for him in her life. That and I believe he was more infatuated with me than in love. I' just happy we both had agreat experience and friendship as well.

[BlckmastrNYC]

For me that is. I'm just starting out in this hobby and I have no SO at home so I'm available to date as I wish. I've wondered what it would be like to date a provider. I've also wondered what I would do if I fell for one. Do I keep my mouth shut or open it and risk being looked at like I'm from Mars?

[BlckmastrNYC]

Originally Posted by BlckmastrNYC

For me that is. I'm just starting out in this hobby and I have no SO at home so I'm available to date as I wish. I've wondered what it would be like to date a provider. I've also wondered what I would do if I fell for one. Do I keep my mouth shut or open it and risk being looked at like I'm from Mars?

I'd also add that I'm a picky dude. I wonder if that makes a difference.

[wellrich]

Ryanscot, did your friend know that you were married? Chinese women in general hold marriage in high regard and do not want to be labeled a homewrecker.