What would you do?

[salomon]

Last night at Cityscape, as I’m getting up to leave, a dancer comes over and asks if I want a dance. I politely decline. I tell her I’m leaving. She then asks for tip. I guess like an exit fee. I decline. She rolls her eyes and makes me feel like a jerk. Is this a common practice or do I just look like a pathetic mark? Would anyone tip this dancer? What would be the appropriate tip for a 15-second conversation?

[mitchmaxx]

I would have told her to go fuck herself.

[greekgirlinnj]

thats not cool she did that

[genius]

ditto

[footy3]

glad to hear you didn't let her stupid act guilt/embarrass you into tipping her.

wanna tip? don't stand on your head while you piss!!

[pilon]

You should tip her!!!!

A quarter!

[Eugene]

You probably a nice and polite looking fellow, so for some of the strippers
"nice and polite" equals "weak". I'm glad you did not give that bitch anything. Tips should be deserved.

[Flounder]

Originally posted by salomon
Last night at Cityscape, as I’m getting up to leave, a dancer comes over and asks if I want a dance. I politely decline. I tell her I’m leaving. She then asks for tip. I guess like an exit fee. I decline. She rolls her eyes and makes me feel like a jerk. Is this a common practice or do I just look like a pathetic mark? Would anyone tip this dancer? What would be the appropriate tip for a 15-second conversation?

WTF did she expect a tip for? Tell her to suck your dick and you'll give her a dollar.

[jam master jay]

You politely declined...and that should have been that. No dance, no tip. What was she looking to be tipped for?

[salomon]

Originally posted by Eugene
You probably a nice and polite looking fellow, so for some of the strippers
"nice and polite" equals "weak". I'm glad you did not give that bitch anything. Tips should be deserved.

I think you're right. Some dancers really have disdain for the customer. They're out to fleece him for as much as possible any way possible. She's the only one I got that hustle vibe from, but it definitely soured my evening.

[Psychosis]

This also happened to me in a club in upstate NY. I was sitting at the bar and a dancer comes up to me and asks if I want a lap dance and I said no thank you and continued to have my drink, She then asks how about giving her a tip now because I didn't go to the stage when she was up. Now this really pissed me of and I might have been wrong in sayiing this but I said the reason I did not go to the stage when she was up is because I only go to the stage when an attractive girl is on it. I know this was a bit harsh but I felt she deserved it. She went and complained to the bouncer ( who has been a friend of mine for 15 years or so ) and all he did was laugh and ignored her.

[Eugene]

I guess that in order to eliminate the possibility of this kind of unjustified "tip" hustling, we (the hobbyists) should try to be LESS "NICE AND POLITE" of course I'm not suggesting being rude, but if we project a "tougher" image those things should not happen to us.

[trickstud]

I would have said sure Ill give you a tip....DONT EAT YELLOW SNOW.....bitch!

[traderjack09]

want a tip, drive your house away from the next hurricane

[Reel Deal]

If it weren't for the numb nuts who give in to these shameless hustles, they wouldn't feel empowered to continue to do it.

They make it hard to give a "no" without making you feel like an a**h***.

I tip well when the girl does something to deserve it-and my "tip threshold" is fairly low (I think I've tipped every dancer who ever stopped by my lonely spot next to the stage, just for the effort).

I despise the ones who come up and say, "I'm on stage next and need a dollar", then disappears.

Once, I was really digging on the girl on stage. Serious eye contact beyond the norm, sparks flying, heat rising. I couldn't wait for her to get off the stage. Another girl comes up, plops her ass down on the stage in front of me, and "demanded" money. It took me just about using C4 and a blasting cap to get her to leave. By then my cutie had moved on.

[Kman67]

I agree. it is hard to say no without feeling like a jerk. But I also don't like getting hustled.

I used to work in Hackensack and we used to go to a place called The Flamingo on route 46 in South Hackensack once in a while.

I don't know if it was me, but there was one girl there who would bother me constantly. I walked into the bar and sat down. She would be by my spot the second my butt hit the stoll, even before the bartender came by. She would even take my tip walk to tthe other end of the bar and come back for another (sometimes 2 or 3 times) within the space of the same song being played.

I just stopped tipping her. sometimes I would make a convenient bathroom break when she was around, and finally I had to tell her to go away, but she didn't get the hint or got severely pissed off.

Don't feel like a jerk if you do not tip for a 15 second conversation which was probably a 5 second conversation:

"Hey baby, you want a lap dance?"
"No Thanks. I'm just leaving"
"How about a dollar then?"

OK - 3 seconds

[Thorn]

I'm actually much more devious [some would say insidious] then that.

Confronted with the stripper who did nothing more then say hello as I was obviously getting up to leave, and upon confirmation of my leaving ask for a tip simply for saying goodbye, given that I had a little time to kill I engaged her in polite conversation. She started this little game, she is under some small obligation to continue the dialog least the worm turn entirely.

Thus having wasted what I felt was a sufficent amount of her time, I say goodbye a second time and leave. No tip being given.

I find the same tactic works equally well on Mormons and Jehovah's Witnesses who knock on my door early on Saturday mornings.

Thorn's motto: Give me gold, I'll give you diamonds. Try to give me dirt, I'll wet it [I'll be polite and not say how] and leave you with mudd.

I'm just a nice guy like that. :)

[Flounder]

Originally posted by Kman67


Don't feel like a jerk if you do not tip for a 15 second conversation which was probably a 5 second conversation:

"Hey baby, you want a lap dance?"
"No Thanks. I'm just leaving"
"How about a dollar then?"

OK - 3 seconds

I'd act dumb and say, "You don't have to pay me Darling, I'm off the clock." When she explains that you should give her a dollar, just laugh at her, like, "You gotta be kidding!?!"

[escortworks]

you shoulda asked her what she wants tip for?

[rangerNY]

Last time that happened to me, it was one dancer that never gets the hint that I'm just not interested in her. She plops down next to me. Five minutes later, she's talking my ear off, I'm doing my best to ignore her, and I'm about to tell her to beat it when she drops her hand into my lap.

That's it, I'm done. I get up, toss her a $20 for the time she's spent (more strip joint ettiquete), and toss another $20 on the bar to cover the drink I still owe for, and a tip for the bartender.

The chick grabs the second twenty off the bar! I politely tell her that its for the bartender, and she just stuffs it in her purse and tells me to give the bartender less. Can you f-ing believe it? So, I call over to the bartender that the chick just took her money, and I walk out.

As I'm heading out, a major brawl is breaking out between the dancer and the bartender, who is about ready to pound her. Still wondering how that turned out, and I can't wait to see if she finally figured out that she should just ignore me next time I go in there.