Can anyone say "psycho"?!

[Danielle]

Obviously coming into contact with mentally unstable people is not a completely foreign experience to me, but some people's behavior is just so far from being excusable that you just have to take a second to say "whoa.".
I was hanging with this dude at the bar tonight and we're chatting, getting along fairly well. Later on I sit with him at a table and do a couple of dances for him. He then gives me $100, which was very nice so I hang with him for a bit more and then exuse myself because he tells me nicely he doesn't want any more dances. So I go and sit with another customer, a friend of mine. I soon notice (and so does my customer) that the guy seems to be lurking nearby and staring at me. When I get up to use the bathroom he grabs my arm and asks me when am I coming back to sit with him, and I say that I'm sorry but I'm busy with someone right then. Later he actually approaches me while I'm sitting with my friend and says; "are you two comfortable?" and then starts asking my friend if he knew where I went to college and other wierd questions. When I get up to use the bathroom later he approaches my friend again and says; "Hey, I've invested a lot of money in that girl, that shit's mine, why don't you leave and let her do what she wants?"
To make a long story short, I actually had to have this guy asked to leave. He was being a real pain in the ass.
I just don't feel that it's appropriate to assume that spending any amount of money on a dancer means that you've purchased her for the rest of the night, unless of course you've made that arrangement with her. Not only was his assumption completely innapropriate but his behavior was inexusable. You can't just walk up to a girl when she's with another guy and complain to her or him about something. What a dick! I don't think he had any idea how stupid he was making himself look. Do you guys think he was really drunk, on drugs, or just socially clueless?

[TC123]

I vote for Socially Clueless. Whether that was brought on by drugs or alcohol is hard to tell, and doesn't change anything anyway.

[elliot16]

I vote for mentally ill. His behaviour went beyond socially clueless.

[Casper]

Whatever it was he's got problems. And I bet in his mind he didn't get his money's worth. Obviously his perception is different from yours, or from most in this instance.

[Cloud Nine]

Did he at least get three dances, a shoulder massage, 30 minutes of conversation and a toy?

[bobo529]

I think we should start charging Danielle for the free therapy she has been receiving here.

[danger-us]

Danielle, your behavior was inexcusable. Once a guy pays you $100, he owns you for the night. You should know that. Shame on you. I mean, $100. Wow. That's a lot of money.

I think for $150 he gets you on a collar and leash.

[justlooking]

You know what I've always said about anyone who would pay a stripper just for her time . . . .

[Geezy Muldoon]

You floozy you. For that kind of money, I'd want you to at least cut the hair out of my ears and make me two grilled cheese sandwiches.

[fumpton]

I hope you have the bouncers walk you out to your car/subway/etc. This guy may start hanging around the club waiting for you and he could get violent.

[danger-us]

Originally posted by fumpton
I hope you have the bouncers walk you out to your car/subway/etc. This guy may start hanging around the club waiting for you and he could get violent.

That is truly one of the scariest aspects of the job. Once you play and these fools believe...

[justlooking]

I would strongly caution Danielle not to let this guy get her near any upper-story windows.

[Casper]

What about steps to a basement landing

That brings up a memory. 2 other friends, NYC circa 1989, us 3 drunk, 2 babes pass us by ...... before I knew it bj's were being given (for dead presidents) at the bottom of a dimly lit basement steps..... Oh those were the good ole days ... Times Square was a great place to visit, pre-Guiliani days and when he still had a full head of hair (so did I) and I could always find my way downtown by looking up for the Towers as I drove.

[jasonbuju]

socially clueless has my vote.

guys like that act the same way even if they did not pay someone a $100.

[harrynj]

That is messed up. You would have been better off trying to get some $ from slinky. :)

[robnotbob]

Now was he a Level 1, Level 2 or Level 3 guy??

[celtic knight]

If you see this guy again, my advise would be not to take any $$ from him. He could be very dangerous. If you see him lurking nearby, have the bouncer "talk" to him. You deserve a long life.

[*********]

Oh come on JL is harmless!

[Danielle]

If he comes by again I will definetely avoid him. the bouncers do see us outside and into cabs at the end of night, so I think I'll be safe from any stalker like activities. (I hope!)

On a side note, I find it so interesting that people can get so fucked up on drugs or alcohol that they have no idea what the hell they're doing. I've been fucked up on occassion myself, but I've never been completely socially inept, maybe a little impaired, but I've never totally forgotten the basic rules of etiqquete (sp?) or common cuertousy.
Just last week I was hanging out with some guy who for whatever reason (I'm sure we can all guess) had completely lost his short term memory. Immediately following my detailed story about my awful small-town high school experience he asks me where did I grow up. He also asked my name about five times during our one hour together. It was more bizarre than sad I think.

[pjorourke]

Originally posted by Sexywhore
Oh come on JL is harmless!

JL, if I were you, I'd consider this the most insulting thing I've ever seen on a whoreboard.

[pjorourke]

Originally posted by Danielle
Just last week I was hanging out with some guy who for whatever reason (I'm sure we can all guess) had completely lost his short term memory. Immediately following my detailed story about my awful small-town high school experience he asks me where did I grow up. He also asked my name about five times during our one hour together. It was more bizarre than sad I think.

We fondly refer to those incidents as "senior moments".

[justme]

Originally posted by pjorourke
We fondly refer to those incidents as "senior moments".

When I see such behavior, I generally think acid corpse.

[Wwanderer]

Originally posted by Sexywhore
Oh come on JL is harmless!

Mostly harmless.

-Ww

[justme]

Originally posted by Wwanderer
Mostly harmless.

Is that a hitchikers riff?

[justlooking]

Originally posted by Danielle
Just last week I was hanging out with some guy who for whatever reason (I'm sure we can all guess) had completely lost his short term memory. Immediately following my detailed story about my awful small-town high school experience he asks me where did I grow up. He also asked my name about five times during our one hour together. It was more bizarre than sad I think.

http://www.mindspring.com/~biohaz/komodo.txt

[Wwanderer]

Originally posted by justme
Is that a hitchikers riff?

Of course.

-Ww

[justme]

Didn't figure you for enjoying something so ???.

It was my favorite book throughout elementary school. (Then my mom gave me Vonnegut, then I discovered Borges, and finally I ended up with Cortezar... although even Julio may be replaced after I finish with the Quixote).

[Wwanderer]

Adams, Vonnegut and Borges too... We seem to have the same breed of Babble Fish stuck in our ears.

Btw, I also have no idea what to substitute for the "???" in your post.

-Ww

PS - Note that I remembered and posted the name of the Borges short story in that other thread.

[justme]

??? - Geeky, base, unsophisticated, corny???

I'm not sure what I meant either. I seem to be having tremendous difficulty with vocabulary, today.

[lawyer101]

Danielle,
Dealing with psycho customers must be the scariest thing about your job. Can I ask a question? Did this guy appear to be unstable or was he a normal looking guy? If you saw this guy in a store, would you try to avoid him? I know he was “handing” you money, so this was the main reason that you were even associating with him. As I have said before, I am not a big fan of “regular” strip clubs. At “the dish”, I have seen plenty of guys that looked like complete psychos. On more than once occasion, I have even made comments to the girls. I give them credit for being able to get completely naked with a guy that looks like he "just killed his entire family". I guess they have a job to do, so this is why they have to do it.

[Danielle]

Lawyer-
That's the scary part, he looked totally normal. Infact, he was attractive and quite charming (in the beginning). Then he just got all weird and wouldn't leave me alone. He was even there with friends who also seemed normal, so he must have been kinda normal some of the time. He was definetely on some kind of drugs, I'm thinking qualudes.

JL- What the hell was that link all about? Is there some reference to something else that's going completely over my head?

[trixdaddy]

He was prob all 3 rolled into one!!!
1 drunk
2- doped up
3- socially retarded

Guess thats what happen when people lose their senses..

[Danielle]

Yeah, well. Strip clubs seem to be powerful magnets for social retards. And before you guys get all offended allow me to add that this group includes many of my coworkers as well as customers.

[Danielle]

Originally posted by Danielle

Just last week I was hanging out with some guy who for whatever reason (I'm sure we can all guess) had completely lost his short term memory. Immediately following my detailed story about my awful small-town high school experience he asks me where did I grow up. He also asked my name about five times during our one hour together. It was more bizarre than sad I think. [/B]


Short-term memory loss man returns a week later! The interesting thing is that he remembered me and I had no clue who the hell he was. Do you guys get offended if a stripper doesn't remember meeting you if you'd only met like, once?

[justme]

Originally posted by Danielle
Yeah, well. Strip clubs seem to be powerful magnets for social retards. And before you guys get all offended allow me to add that this group includes many of my coworkers as well as customers.

How could anyone be offended by something that seems so self-evident?

(Strip club conversation last Thursday

(just)Me: (something vaguely compelling)
Dancer: When you say things like that, it convinces me you're a playa
M: I know it's your job to lie to me, but you should make the lie somewhat believable
D: What do you mean?
M: What on Earth would any 'playa' be doing at a strip club dropping serious cash just to chat up a girl that would never have sex with him.
D: I see your point.

)

[justme]

Originally posted by Danielle
Do you guys get offended if a stripper doesn't remember meeting you if you'd only met like, once?

Define 'met'.

[justlooking]

I'm always surprised when they do.

[Danielle]

Slinky's deleted my "Daily Grind" thread. Damn. Oh well, I suppose it's for the best.

[justlooking]

Not deleted. Moved to "The Coliseum" board, where threads are put when they degenerate into foodfights.

[Slinky Bender]

That boy is a P-I-G pig.

[justlooking]

Ummmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm?

[danger-us]

Originally posted by Danielle
Slinky's deleted my "Daily Grind" thread. Damn. Oh well, I suppose it's for the best.
Originally posted by justlooking
Not deleted. Moved to "The Coliseum" board, where threads are put when they degenerate into foodfights.

I am glad I went away for the weekend. Who needs that garbage.

[Casper]

Originally posted by Danielle
Slinky's deleted my "Daily Grind" thread. Damn. Oh well, I suppose it's for the best.

It really lived up to it's title.

[danger-us]

Originally posted by Danielle
Do you guys get offended if a stripper doesn't remember meeting you if you'd only met like, once?

Everyone wants to be memorable. Some are, some aren't.

If it's a guy with a complex, he'll definitely be offended.

If a guy spent an amount of time dancing and talking with you, he would think you'd remember. You can only try your best to remember.

[danger-us]

Originally posted by danger-us
Everyone wants to be memorable.

Hey, I guess the psycho guy ended up being pretty memorable, right? hehe

[Casper]

If I spent over $100 on her I'd at least want to be recognized if not remembered. Otherwise, I'm not totally offended.

[lawyer101]

Originally posted by danger-us
I am glad I went away for the weekend. Who needs that garbage.

I agree. Now maybe we can all play nice...:)

[Danielle]

Hey, what's life without a little turbulence now and then?

D-U, I was wondering where the hell you were during that whole saga.

[Danielle]

Why do they even bother moving those threads as opposed to just deleting them if we're not allowed to add to them anyway?

[danger-us]

Originally posted by Danielle
Hey, what's life without a little turbulence now and then?

D-U, I was wondering where the hell you were during that whole saga.

Sure, you only appreciate someone when they are gone...

[justme]

Danielle - not all threads that are moved are locked. In fact, I was under the impression that your Daily Grind thread was not locked.

[Danielle]

No, it's not "locked". What I meant is that we were all given an explicit warning by the staff not to continue the conversation, less we be banned.

[justme]

You can continue the conversation, just don't continue the argument.

[Danielle]

to be quite honest, I don't remember what the hell we were talking about before the arguement started. Oh wait, drinking too much or something of that nature. My poor thread. I feel like it's been sent to detention or something. Can it come back to "strippers and porn stars" if it behaves well?

[fumpton]

Originally posted by Danielle
to be quite honest, I don't remember what the hell we were talking about before the arguement started. Oh wait, drinking too much or something of that nature. My poor thread. I feel like it's been sent to detention or something. Can it come back to "strippers and porn stars" if it behaves well?

....and can I spank Danielle if she's been naughty?

[Danielle]

I worked an S&M function at my club the other night and recieved the hardest spanking of my life. I still have hand-prints emblazoned on my cheeks. I think I need to wait for those to go away before I get punished any further.

[busted]

Originally posted by Danielle
to be quite honest, I don't remember what the hell we were talking about before the arguement started. Oh wait, drinking too much or something of that nature. My poor thread. I feel like it's been sent to detention or something. Can it come back to "strippers and porn stars" if it behaves well?

Probably not, but I will say that I warned you, remember you are always better than the scum that tries to put people down for their own betterment. I don't do it at work, I don't do it at home (well maybe sometimes) and I defintely don't do it during my hobbying activities.

Actually D, I was just looking for a congrats from you for my Silver. If it wasn't for you, it would've taken me twice as long!

[Danielle]

I'm sorry. congratulations on your "silver" status.

[busted]

Originally posted by Danielle
I'm sorry. congratulations on your "silver" status.

THANKS!!